Making Changes so That You Can Commit

I had a major problem this week where I committed to doing something and then had other things come up that did not allow me to focus on what I had committed to. I realized that if it was all that important I would have made a firm commitment to focusing on that specific thing. I realized that it is these things that get us in trouble.

When an individual commits to something that is not really important, they are starting to get off the path. In deciding how and when to make commitments one needs to heed this advice. If you have not kept a commitment it cannot be that important.

It is time to reevaluate the level of the commitment and why you made it in the first place. It is also part of a bigger picture and shows you that you are operating on reflex and not on purpose. When one is dedicated to making and keeping commitments,this focus of operating on purpose is the thing that makes the commitment easy to keep.

In future I will think twice about making a commitment, especially to something I already know is not in my plan. I learned an important lesson this week. Its easy to commit and keep a commitment especially if its something that is important in your life. If its marginal then its time to move on, so that you do not make a commitment reluctantly and get yourself in trouble later, by not keeping you promise to do what you say you will do.

Kensel Tracy is a personal and business coach, ( The Marketing Coach) and has written the book " The Ten Commitments to a Better Life". It is available at Amazon.com. Kensel can be reached for coaching assignments at kenselt@sympatico.ca

Knowing Where you Fit In is a Major Commitment

Have you ever wondered why you can't get what it is you want. You keep trying a bunch of different approaches but you keep hitting a dead end. The key to moving your life forward and finding out what it is you want, is to "know" where you fit in. This does not mean having others tell you our manipulate you like they used to do in grade school.

Finding out where you fit in is a personal quest. For example, you have a lot of unique talents that you don't apply because you don't have the confidence to do what you know you can. Maybe you have an ability to write and don't write because you are not sure that others will read it or they will be critical of it.

In order to get yourself fully into integrity and attract the things you want, you need to "know"where you fit in. This is a simple step and requires a commitment to "knowing" where you fit in. Most people wander around in a daze or a cloud of maybe, wishing, hoping, without committing to " knowing" where it is they want to be and why. Fitting in means taking your skills and your talents and committing to them and then telling others.

For example if you play keyboards and you want to play in a band, you tell everyone that's what you want to do. Within a short period, someone will introduce you to someone else that needs a keyboard player, or you will notice an ad in the paper or a friend will say, I didn't know that's what you wanted, you should meet so and so.

So much of life is about commitment. Commitment is a firm place which can attract those things that move you forward.

Without committing to "knowing" where you want to be you give the universe mixed signals. Its hard for the universe to help you if you don't know what it is you want and why. As soon as you commit to knowing where you fit in, you give a clear signal and a clear indication to everyone around you that this is what you want to be and why. The universe also listens and starts moving everything in your direction.

The minute you waffle, you baffle the universe and anything that was coming your way is missed due to this missed communication. Commitment is about doing and saying what it is you want to do and staying with it. Committing to "knowing" where you fit in will help you get what you want and help the universe to help get what it is you need.

Kensel Tracy is a personal and business coach. His book "The Ten Commitments to a Better Life" can be ordered from Amazon.com.